5 Reasons We all Need to Quit Complaining NOW

By Christine Lewicki

5 Reasons We all Need to Quit Complaining NOW

Hi, I am Christine Lewicki, wife, author and mother to three girls. I am also a recovered complainer.

Like many women today, I have a very full, busy, and hectic life. We have all seen the commercials and the movies that glamorize the work/mom juggle. But the struggle is real. On the outside, I had a happy life, but deep inside I was resisting the daily grind and it was draining me. My reaction to the stress was to complain and moan everyday about everything that was getting in my way.  Eventually I set out to change my response and react differently. I challenged myself to quit complaining.

It has been quite a journey.

This is my story.

It all started one regular night. After a long day juggling all of my different responsibilities, I crashed into bed feeling drained and empty. I felt like I just had one of those “terrible, horrible, very bad days,” except I quickly realized it was actually just a normal day in my life. Nothing terrible had happened, and I knew I would have many more of those normal days in the coming weeks, months, and even years. How could I live my life without feeling so overwhelmed? How could I learn to enjoy this life that I had so many reasons to be grateful for?

I realized that what was draining me was all the energy I spent resisting and complaining about what was happening to me, whether it was the spilled milk on the floor, the never-ending amount of bills in my mailbox or this fear that I would never be able to receive the support that I needed from my husband.

I began to wonder if I would ever make it through these so called normal days without feeling irritated and overwhelmed. I was wasting so much energy resisting my reality.

I will never forget the day I decided that something had to change and that thing was MY ATTITUDE. My outlook.

I decided to quit complaining.

Did you know that the average person complains anywhere from 15 to 30 times in a single day? Neither did I before I started my journey into 21 days without complaining. Just imagine it, going a full day without uttering a single complaint; not focusing on the negative, concentrating on improving what is not working and being grateful for the beautiful things already around you.

Could you do it?

If you’re thinking about how hard that might be, here are five great reasons why we all need to quit complaining NOW:

1. Misery Loves Company

The age-old saying is true – when you’re a complainer, you’re inviting others to do the same. Soon, you’ll be surrounded by a bunch of complainers and guess what? People are competitive, they want to be the best, and that includes being the best at complaining.

On the contrary, when you quit complaining and stop focusing on the negative, people will start to do the same. Be the leader and inspire those around you to follow in your footsteps– doesn’t that sound like such a better environment to be in?

2. It Helps You Take Control of Your Life

You are the only person in control of your life. Every day you get to control your thoughts, your mindset, your actions, and consequently your reality. Quit wasting your time by sitting around and complaining about what is going on around you – instead, take control and fix it.

If every morning the kids drive you nuts, change your routine (the one you have is obviously not working!) If you despise your job, start the process of looking for a new one. When you are stuck in a rut, the only way to get out of it is to act, so quit complaining and get started. No action is irrelevant if it’s pushing you, even slowly, in the right direction. Sometimes we just need simple tweaks.

If you’ve ever heard of the “snowball” effect, here is where it would be great to start implementing it in your life. Start small, make one small positive change and you’ll notice a shift. From there, it’s like a snowball, you’ll be inspired and motivated along the way to make more and more changes that ignite your overall happiness, naturally shifting your mindset and reducing the need for you to complain.

3. You Become More Mindful

Mindfulness is a practice in which everyone could benefit from. Being mindful of not complaining and adjusting your outlook to a more positive one is something that takes practice, but has significant benefits when practiced daily.

Becoming more mindful about not complaining can help rewire your brain to become more positive naturally. A great tool that I used was the bracelet method. Start with a bracelet on one wrist, and the goal is to keep it on that same wrist for 21 consecutive days. If you complain, switch the bracelet to the other wrist and count how many wrist changes you make. You’d be surprised how helpful it is to have a physical item to help you be mindful about your complaining.

4. You Find What Makes You Happy

When you quit complaining, you get the chance to celebrate the things that are going well in your life.

Did you have a crappy day at work? How happy were you to come home to your family afterward? Did you complain about having to go to the gym? How great did that workout feel once you accomplished all of your sweaty goals for the day?

Catch my drift?

Complaining takes up A LOT of time and space that you could use focusing on the positive, like recognizing and giving thanks for the things that are working, and that you are grateful for.

It’s no joke that gratitude is the attitude: the studies are endless on the link between gratitude and increased happiness.

5. Your Communication Skills Improve Drastically

When you decide to take an active approach to stop your habit of complaining, you’ll quickly find that you need to be very direct (yet empathetic) and impeccable with your word.

When something is bothering you, instead of sitting on it and letting it stir, talk about it immediately. To get your message across, it’s best to speak to whoever has power to improve the situation, avoid exaggerating (and turning the problem into drama) and most of all, resist the urge to point fingers.

It’s not an easy art but it will change everything. I know, because it did for me.

If you’re interested in more information about how I overcame my habit of complaining, I encourage you to visit my website, www.iquitcomplaining.com, for your free Quit Complaining Starter Kit. I hope this article inspired you to get off the fence and get started on this life-changing journey.

With love,

Christine

About

5 Reasons We all Need to Quit Complaining NOW

Christine Lewicki is a bestselling author and certified leadership coach living between Paris and Los Angeles, California. Particularly known as a sought-after speaker who loves to express herself with her heart and guts, she’s brilliant in inspiring everyone to get out of victim mode and share their best self with the world. She is also a wife and the mother of three kick-ass girls, always striving to live her busy and rich life to its fullest. To find our more visit www.christinelewicki.com

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