Month: September 2019

Every Little Thing Matters

Every Little Thing Matters

I did a thing today.

Actually I drove away from the thing I wanted to do because I wasn’t sure about it.

I picked up my daughter as planned and when she got in the car, I told her about what I saw and what I wanted to do. She said, “If you don’t feel right about not doing something, you should go back.” So, I drove back with my Joy to the place where the woman stood holding a cardboard sign that read, “Please I have no job. I have two kids and we are hungry.”

Come on now.

We all know in our heart of hearts that no one wants to stand on a street with a sign begging for help. We’re sometimes just so wrapped up in our own worries being mindless to others around us that we don’t imagine how good and easy we have it. Or worse, and I’m guilty of this too, we shove a few coins in their hands so we can feel better about ourselves.

Meeting Your Edge

Meeting Your Edge

If you’re not afraid, it’s not your edge.

If you’re not resistant, it’s not your edge. If you can coast through it, it’s not your edge.

If you’re not feeling raw, it’s not your edge. If you’re trying to fit yourself into a mental framework, it’s not your edge. If you think you’ve got it figured out, it’s not your edge.

If you leap too soon, you’ll bounce back to your old ways before long; and if you wait too long to leap, you’ll remain bound to your old ways after the novelty of seeing different ground has worn thin. Going to your edge is not a one-time activity; it’s a way of being.

WomenOnTheFence Celebrates Its 10th Blogiversary!

WomenOnTheFence Celebrates Its 10th Blogiversary!

Ten years ago today, I wrote my first blog post. It’s our’s 10th BLOGIVERSARY!

How things have changed over the past decade. Growth, evolution, stumbles, triumphs, watching my babies grow. 

Thank you for sticking with me. I am grateful beyond measure.

How my first post went, September 11, 2009:

It’s Later Than You Think

It’s Later Than You Think

Eight years ago, during the same month, I had twin boys and co-founded Cloudability. About three months ago Cloudability was acquired. About three weeks ago we lost one of our boys.

When I got the call I was sitting in a conference room with 12 people at our Portland office talking about PTO policies. Minutes earlier, I had admitted to the group that in the last 8 years I’d not taken more than a contiguous week off.

My wife and I have an agreement that when one of us calls, the other answers. So when the phone rang I stood up and walked to the conference room door immediately.

I was still walking through the door when I answered with “Hey, what’s up?”

Her reply was icy and immediate: “J.R., Wiley is dead.”