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Unlearning the lessons we’ve internalized throughout our lives can be challenging. From our earliest days, we absorb beliefs, assumptions, and behaviors that shape our perception of the world. Some of these teachings empower us, while others inadvertently hold us back.

But what if we could break free from these self-imposed limitations? What if we could shed the layers of conditioning that no longer serve us?


Welcome to a journey of unlearning—the process of questioning, challenging, and releasing outdated notions that hinder our growth and fulfillment. In today’s post, we learn 8 beliefs to unlearn which can light up our path towards personal liberation and profound self-discovery.

  1. Perfectionism

We need to unlearn the idea that everything has to be perfect. Life is full of imperfections, and embracing them can lead to greater growth and happiness. When we let go of being perfect, we can really lean into our authentic self!

2. Fear of Failure

Failure is a natural part of life and a stepping stone to success. We need to unlearn the fear associated with failure and instead view it as an opportunity to learn and improve. We need a mindset of unstuckness and realize that trying is EVERYTHING. It’s where growth and opportunities lie.

3. Seeking Approval From Others

We often seek validation and approval from others, but true happiness comes from within. We should unlearn the habit of constantly seeking external validation and instead focus on our own self-worth. Remember… you are exactly where you are meant to be.

4. Negative Self-Talk

The way we talk to ourselves has a significant impact on our mindset and self-esteem. We need to unlearn negative self-talk and replace it with positive and empowering thoughts. This is a practice – begin talking to yourself in a way you would a friend or child you are trying to comfort.

5. It’s Too Early or Too Late

It’s never too early or too to start. Whether it’s your health, a relationship, career, a new skill or hobby, or a passion project. Don’t wait. Give yourself permission to start even if if the steps are small. Movement creates momentum which creates motivation to continue.

6. Dwelling On The Past

Holding onto past mistakes, regrets, and grudges can hinder our ability to move forward and find happiness. We need to unlearn the habit of dwelling on the past and instead focus on the present moment and future possibilities.

7. Being Alone Means Being Lonely

Spending time alone is one of the best things you can do for your happiness and well-being. It will give you time to reflect and plan your life. We need to unlearn the notion that being alone is the same thing as being lonely – being alone is crucial to our growth.

8. Discomfort Isn’t Normal

Discomfort is totally normal and expected in life. Discomfort makes us grow.  Every time you go out of your comfort zone, you build your resilience and courage muscle. We have to unlearn that discomfort is bad – discomfort is where growth and change happen for us.

This journey of unlearning allows us to cultivate the art of letting go—letting go of ingrained habits that stifle our growth, letting go of toxic relationships that drain our energy, and letting go of the crippling self-doubt that whispers in our ears.

With each release, we will create the space necessary for new wisdom to take root, allowing our hearts and minds to flourish in harmony.

In wellness and self-care,

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Erica Diamond


Teaching women how to prioritize SELF-CARE, Erica Diamond is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Yoga & Meditation Teacher, Lifestyle and Parenting Correspondent on Global TV, Founder of Bliss Essential (, Professional Speaker, Host of The Erica Diamond Podcast, Course Creator of Busy To Bliss (, Author of the women’s entrepreneurial book 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Starting Their Own Business, and Founder & Editor-In-Chief of the Award-Winning Lifestyle Platform® (previously®). Erica Diamond has been named to the coveted list of The Top 20 Women in Canada, FORBES Magazine’s Top 100 Sites for Women and a Profit Hot 50 Canadian Company. Erica Diamond was the Spokesperson for National Entrepreneurship Day and is a Huffington Post contributor.