An Open Letter To Lindsay Lohan

Dear Lindsay,

It was around the year 2001. I was flipping the TV channels in bed and accidentally stumbled upon a movie. I had always loved Dennis Quaid, so I was curious as to why I hadn’t seen this particular one. There you were. Your sweet face. The Parent Trap. How charming, and lovely, and beautiful, and sweet and innocent. I remember thinking, “Who is this girl? She’s such an incredible actress.”

The truth is, I have followed your career since. I have always been fascinated by you. Your beautiful smile, your perfect nose, your gorgeous red hair. A face like an angel. I then saw you again in Mean Girls. I can’t believe I actually watched that movie, but that’s a whole other story. But when I really took notice of you as a true great actress of our generation was in Georgia Rule. I LOVED that movie. How disturbing, how intense, how thought provoking. You were captivating in that film.

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And so, over the years, I have watched your rise and fall, your dramas and antics, your rocky relationships with both men and women. We all have. You’ve done it all in the public eye. And the reason why I reserved today’s Blog for you, was, I tweeted something simple out this morning, and got an influx of returned tweets. I hadn’t even asked a question. I simply made a statement… EOnline tweeted out the following: “Can Lindsay Lohan ever come back?” What an interesting question. Well I tweeted back to them, a simple answer obviously. You know Twitter… we only have 140 characters! My answer was  “I hope so. I think she’s so talented. She had no guidance & nurturing.” That simple. And all of a sudden, after I got out of yoga class, tons of messages. “I agree with you 100%” or “You’re right. Look at her parents, I hope she comes out a better person” or “I AGREE W U! Lindsay had SO MUCH potential, was very beautiful & extremely talented.” Anyhow, there were tons more, and emails as well.

And I realized I wasn’t alone in my support of you. I didn’t know how many people are rooting for your recovery.  I thought most of the public thought of you as a fucked up alcoholic or drug addict, or party animal, or someone with an OCD, or whatever. But the truth is, there are so many people out there, like me, who want to see you rise again. And while I may not be a doctor, or a Phd, or even Dr. Drew for that matter, I am, I think, in tuned with the human spirit. And when someone attacks someone for bad behavior, my internal instincts are to look beyond their behavior. I feel that we as human beings, do not act out if we are not troubled inside. We don’t look outside ourselves for external adulation when we have inner peace and happiness. And I think it’s really difficult to manifest as human beings if we aren’t nurtured, and hugged, and given unconditional love. When you have parents with hidden agendas, or abusive ways, or toxic behavior, it takes a village to bring one over to the other side. I don’t think you had that village to take you over to the good side. I honestly think you had freeloading, blood sucking, mooches swirming your head. And I think it’s all taken its toll.

So, the point of my Blog on this Friday, is to tell you, I pray for you. I pray for your recovery. And while I do agree with one of the emails I received today about your jail sentence, which said, “Unfortunately, sometimes it takes the fall to make a change,” I hope you don’t stay stuck at that bottom for too long. My Blog is called Women On The Fence… for women who have had their asses stuck to the fence for too long, and need to make a change in their life. I hope that you get the help you need to get off the fence, once and for all, and improve. I don’t think it’s your parents, or your siblings, or obviously anyone in your current surroundings. I have no idea who that person or persons may be, but it would be the biggest waste for us as a society to lose a talent like yourself. I hope one day you will be the role model, the example, of someone who turned their life around, and then in turn, can help others. And while I know you’re not there yet, I have confidence you will be. You need to believe in yourself the way I realized today, so many people do.

Understand that these people are rooting for you. Now you need to root for yourself. You can do this, Lindsay. You need a helping hand from someone with the right intentions. I hope you find it.

I wish you health, happiness, peace and transformation.

Erica Diamond

  1. What an amazing letter. I agree with all your thoughts but I think it’s gonna take a miracle to cure her. Great post.

  2. You’re an incredible writer. Great letter. I also have been fascinated with her and I wish her well. She probably won’t serve 90 days anyhow, but I hope she learns her lesson.

  3. I feel bad for Lindsay. I hope she also can turn her life around. Maybe it will take prison to do that. I feel like she had it good and she threw it all away.

  4. Wow. beautiful powerful letter! I would love to see Drew Barrymore take her under her wing and help mentor her as a former child actress, addict, wild child with destructive parents, etc. I think Lindsay you are this generations Drew. I think you could look to her for guidance and she would gladly help. She’s been where you are. Look at her now! Charlie’s Angels, Never Been Kissed, etc.

    I too have followed your career. Do the jail, go to rehab and work on you, then maybe transfer to the rehab your father is suggesting to work on the family relationships because I feel like that will be so helpful for not just you but your parents too. Your father has your best interests at heart right now. It may not seem like it, but he’s right. The meds you are on could kill you. dilaudid is 10 times stronger than morphine and very addictive. Trust your father. He’s been there. He was addicted and has done jail time. He doesn’t want you to do jail but if you must he will be there to support you.

    You can stop the cycle and become the sister that Alli and Cody can look up to for the right reasons!

    there are people all over the world rooting for you to come out on the other side a better person. Don’t listen to the haters. I have been working on myself the last 3 years and let me tell you it takes time. If you remove yourself from the public eye and just work on you, you will make it. Don’t care about where the cameras are or who is watching. Care about you and what will make you happy and better without drugs and drinking. I’d be willing to mentor you and help you look inside yourself because I care and know how hard things are.

    People care about you making it. We wanna see you continue acting! can’t wait to see you come back better than ever! hold your head up high because we will always be here supporting you even if your own family won’t except for selfish reasons.

    Peace and love,

  5. I had the same experience with her, I saw the parent trap at the movies when i was like 9 and i really liked her acting and i had a bit of a crush on her, being a kid myself. In middle school i went with my girlfriend an friends to watch freaky friday and i had the same response as i had when i was a kid, I loved her. Mean Girls came out a year later and i realized i never had a favorite actress. She became my favorite actress and i enjoyed the success the years after. Until the whole drunk driving i was so happy with her, she just became some other story. so much negativity and drama after drama i felt sad. The years passed and everyone asked me why i liked her still and i always said the same thing, “She is a good actress” but now it’s hard to believe with all the distraction she has caused. I was watching the sentence online on TMZ an i was so livid, but i realized 3 months without her family and “friends” would protect her. I love her and I will have her in my prayers.

  6. Erica, what a great and powerful letter. Really heart felt and sincere! If only this actually got to her and read it! Unfortunately she is on the wrong path and it will destroy her. There are so many amazing actors and musicians that have died because of these bad addictions and behaviors (ie: Heath Ledger, River Phoenix, Michael Jackson, Brittany Murphy…..just to name a few). It is such a shame because this world would be a better place with them in it!! Keep up the great work Er I’m so proud of you!!

  7. This is a wonderful open letter to Lindsay – I hope she knows that among her millions of fans, there are moms everywhere (I have three daughters – 21yrs, 20 yrs, 20 yrs) that are equally if not more engaged than the younger generation(s).

    My daughters and I also watched her career take off and flourish. What happened? We can never know for sure, but what I call the “enablers” were right there when success and fame developed….coat-tailing on her success, adults joining her in activities reserved for an older more mature person – the drinking and partying at an age where it was hard for her to process but easy to get attached. The adults in her life missed the opportunity to give her a happy, “youthful” childhood experience.

    I believe that Lindsay’s potential talent can be matched to some of our all time American actresses – her performance in the remake of the Parent Trap was amazing, then her Mean Girls performance and even Freaky Friday – this young woman has the potential to develop to the status of Katherine Hepburn or our modern day Meryl Streep….she is an amazing actress – I know she can return and WILL!!!!!!!!! I do think the sentence of 90 days is going to be an awakening – a lesson learned late that there are consequences for our actions. Sad to see it happen but I too believe it might be a good awakening. I hope the lawyers don’t work to “save” her from the experience – I believe it can only help.

    Our family is rooting for you, Ms. Lohan – we are looking forward to seeing you return and become the amazing person you can be!

    Go for all that life can offer!!!!!!!! You are loved!!!!

  8. Erica your letter is heartfelt and to the point. As a psychologist I can say that Lindsay has fallen victim to drug addiction which is of course linked to her genetics, her toxic environment and toxic people who surrounded her. Humans who become addicted to the substances she is addicted to cannot think rationally so 90 days in jail is a good start for her in that it forces her into 90 days of sobriety (hopefully, believe it or not people are able to get high in jail/prison). If upon her release she will take the responsibility to go back into rehab, join and stick with Narcotics Annonymous and change her social circle and dedicate herself to recovery, one day at a time, she may have a chance at resurrecting her career. What Lindsay and people need to understand is that recovery from addiction to narcotics is a one year process to just get back to a zero starting point. It then takes several more years of total sobriety to truly get your life back. She has many role models she can follow, Eric Clapton is one celeb I think of that recovered from heroin addiction, Drew Barrymore is another good role model for Lindsay as well. She also has a huge fan base that is behind her.

  9. This letter brought tears to my eyes and I was noddín along as I read. Often times society forgets that thse are REAL people we watch rise and fall. They are not super beings who are immune to the stress and aguish that eveyoone faces from time to time. I hope to see her rise again too, not just in her career but her spirit as. Well.

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