Lessons To Learn From Life

I thank my mother, who forwarded this to me. It’s a great reminder. I think it’s something we should all read at least once a week. Make sure you read to the end.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more”:

Lessons To Learn From Life


1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry, God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone for everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come….

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.


What’s # is your favorite lesson? I’d love to know and why.

To my fellow Canadians, a very Happy Thanksgiving. And my American friends, a very Happy Columbus Day. 🙂


  1. They’re all so good it’s hard to pick a favorite.
    I like #43, not sure why.
    Love #2.
    #37 is scary and therefore a huge responsibility… it’s why I sold my business.
    #22 is great too.

  2. I LOVED THIS. Made me smile and cry a little. Life is very fragile and SHORT.I love #38. As a recently divorced woman I know this to be true.

  3. 17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

    The older I get the more I need just those things around me that make me feel good. I should add; “those people around me that make me feel good” too. 😉


    29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

    My mother always said “You wouldn’t care so much about what people think of you if you realized how seldom they think of you.” Sobering thought for a teenager, but freeing thoughts for a grownup.

    Thanks for sharing this incredible journey through this wonderful woman’s life.

  4. I saw Erica on CTV news and I was very interested in what she said and loved the idea that anyone
    can go on the site and be themselves. I love the Lessons In life quotes: My favorites were
    #2/#20/#21 Oh so very true. Thanks, laura.

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