Someone’s sick. Someone’s exhausted.
My little man has been sick since Sunday. Fever hasn’t broken yet. Doctor says it’s just a virus.
Warning: mild venting to follow…
Nurse Mommy hasn’t slept in three nights… at all. It’s Teddy Bear Day at school today and my son is missing it. It’s going to be a magnificent day in Montreal – warm and sunny and I’ll be poolside bedside. I haven’t been able to work this week. I haven’t been able to work out this week. I feel like an asshole complaining– I did sign up to be a mom, after all. But I’m tired.
Ok, I’m done.
The ‘On The Fence’ Q of the day: Does complaining about our duties make us selfish?
Grouchy Mommy on the prowl.
Send coffee.
You need more than coffee, you need chocolate!! Make sure hubby stops on his way home today 😉 Seriously though, I hope he feels better soon; it sucks that he’s missing out on so much (and you too!)
Would we be human if we didn’t complain? Being a mother is a selfless job, and as humans we do want to soemtimes focus on ourselves! We have to remind ourselves that we love them unconditionally but it is a hard job and we are allowed from time to time to feel like we have no more to give! You are doing a great job!
I hope your little guy feels better soon. What is life without a little venting amongst friends? You’re doing a great job. What’s your address I’ll send strong cappucinos!
c[____] <— a big cup of coffee for you, & a {{hug}} too!
i’m not a mom, but no, i really, really don’t think complaining about your “mom” duties makes you selfish. AT ALL. it makes you human.
i have plenty of friends and family with little ones, and i see the time and effort (and love) needed to care for their children. and i cannot even FATHOM not being able to occasionally complain about how tired you are. or how much you want an evening off. or how much you want a glass of wine.
complain away, it doesn’t detract from the love you have.
Complaining makes us human. I read your blog and know what an excellent mother you are. Sending A BIG CUP OF COFFEE and hug your way. Hope you’re little guy gets better real soon.
You all melted away my frustration. What would I do without my girls??????
xoxo
Etre parent est un don de soi! I get that even more when the kids are sick and I feel that I am trapped! Courage cher Erica, it will get better! In the mean time, use your little one’s sickness to get more hugs, cuddle, cuddle and cuddle even more! Je t’envois plein d’énergie 🙂
It is venting, NOT complaining!! While it may not be productive, it certainly CAN make us feel better about the situation!! Hope he gets to feeling better quickly so that you can get back to business!!
complaining about our duties doesn’t make us selfish; complaining about our duties makes us REAL!! Vent away, we hear you and send us love and support! 🙂
I think venting is a good way to get rid of built up negative energy, kind of clearing the clutter. So vent all your frustrations and then let them go and be thankful for what you do have, even on the darkest days you can find something to be thankful for. I remember not too long ago my 3 children would get so sick, all three of them have asthma pretty bad and one of them has a lung colasping condition and when they would get a cold many times it would turn into pneumonia and usually they would have pneumonia all at the same time or one right after another. So that meant around the clock breathing treatments for all 3 for weeks. Also one of them would usually need a run to the ER in the middle of the night. My daughter had a couple of hospital stays of up to a week, while my other to were at home with pneumonia. Talk about not sleeping. I had very little support too so that made it harder. Anyway I also believe that sometimes we are just going to fast and something has to slow us down. Hope your little one feels better soon, enjoy your time off and be good to yourself.
I always seem to cope with sick children the first day or two, but by the third day you just NEED to vent to someone. Like Cathy said;”you start to feel trapped”. Best of luck, I hope he feels better soon, sending best health wishes your way.
Not selfish. Virtual coffee sent!
I think it makes you HUMAN! At the core of it, you really just hate seeing your little man so sick and everything else is just hopping aboard the bitchy train. Hope he feels better soon!
Such a timely post! I am a single mother of a wonderful almost 10 year old little boy. A few times a year he gets pretty sick to his tummy. When he was younger he would come into my room and announce he needed to throw up and proceed to do it right on the side of my bed. Fun times cleaning the carpet and getting the smell out so I could actually go back to sleep. The weird thing about him getting sick is that once its out he is fine, he goes right back to sleep (to leave Mommy to clean up). I thought at almost 10 we were done with the announcing and he would just go straight the to bathroom. Well Sunday night – he did announce it but made it to the bathroom but didn’t life the toilet seat. Needless to say it was everywhere – on the bathroom rugs, mirror, shower door, you name it he hit it. I had just settled into a crossword puzzle and a nice up of chamomile tea in my just cleaned (yes bathroom too!) house. I felt so bad being annoyed since this little peaked face was looking up at me. I had to walk away and breathe. I have to say for that 2 minute breathing I felt like the most horrible mother in the world for feeling upset on having to clean all this up. So I realize in this post and the comments that follow – I am not alone, I am just human and it doesn’t take away from the fact that I love my son more than anything in this world. We are all entitled to our moments, its how we acknowledge them and handle them that makes the difference. Thanks for the post! Hope he is on the mend soon!
Reiko, those visuals made me laugh. Sorry! 🙂
I loved your comment so. Thank you. As I just cleaned puke that missed the toilet bowl about an hour ago, I appreciate your words. 😉
To Reiko: Next time he will lift the toilet seat. Well, maybe not the very next time but it is coming:).