By Pazit Perez

How a Self-Portrait Changed My Life

There was a time when I was feeling drained, depleted, small, powerless, isolated and unhappy with myself.

But then I took a self-portrait. And the person I came face to face with was a strong, powerful, capable, brave, beautiful, successful woman. I couldn’t believe she was me.


“That one photograph opened my eyes to a whole new world.”


That photograph opened my eyes to a whole new world. That photograph awakened something in my soul and led me to my journey of self-realization.

How a Self-Portrait Changed My Life

I was ready and committed to become the woman staring at me from the photo.

Every day I looked at her. It inspired me to take action to create a brand-new kind of me and align myself with her. It helped raise my level of consciousness, connected me to my vision of my ideal self, which in turn inspired me to take action to become that person and live my authentic life.

I started by taking full responsibility for my self-sabotaging thoughts and changed them by using positive affirmations from Louise Hay, Tony Robbins and reading books such as The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.

I forgave myself for making such self-sabotaging choices that led me to feel so down and under, and decided that now that I know better, I can do better.

Lastly I made a commitment to honor, love and respect my relationship with myself unconditionally.

Through that process, I now am her. I found my empowerment, my joy for life, my freedom, my self-respect, my self-love, my worthiness, my value, my fearlessness—I refueled my passion.

That one photograph opened my eyes to a whole new world and inspired my creative vision, to found Phototherapy® and the #loveYOURSOULfie movement.


“Creating the big picture vision was the first step and the creative power behind my transformation.”

Creating the big picture vision was the first step and the creative power behind my transformation. Using my gift as a portrait photographer and combining the law of attraction, I capture conscious photographs of my clients, not of who they are right now, but of who they aspire to become. You must first love and accept yourself and then expand it outward into the world.

Who would have thought that a single photograph could create such a butterfly effect? Now I get to share my experience with you, to inspire you to create the big-picture vision for your life through photographs that connect you to your ideal self.

1. Snap a #SOULFIE and keep in the mind the person you want to become.

Think of the person you aspire to be, the kind of life you would like to live. Do you want to be confident, healthy, successful, loved, happy? Think of what a person in that position would look like, feel like, dress like. Create it and shoot yourself according to your vision.

It’s the feeling that propels you to think about what action you can take right now to become that version of yourself in real life. It doesn’t have to be a professional image. Use your own camera, iPhone or tablet, or get someone to take the picture for you.

2. Display your best self.

Print out your photo and display it in a place that you can see it every day, even if it’s the bathroom mirror. The more it’s in your field of vision, the more likely you will keep thinking about it and start to take action to become it.

3. Act on your future.

For example, if you captured yourself as a more confident person, practice a new posture, strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, head to a networking event by yourself. If you captured yourself as a healthier person, commit to walking in the park twice a week, use the stairs instead of the elevator, keep your gym clothes in the car as a not-so-gentle reminder.

Day by day, all the cumulative actions, thoughts and behaviors will lead you to becoming the person in your photo.

Growing up I loved seeing stories of people who went from nothing to building a life of their dreams. Now that I did it for myself, I get to share my experience to inspire others to create the big-picture vision for their life through photographs that connect them to their ideal. Through that transformation, they create an authentic and empowered life.

Did this post speak to you? How fitting for #NationalSelfieDay last week. Did it inspire you to become a confident woman of action? Please share with our incredible community.


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