As we are finishing up Q1, the first quarter of the year, it’s a good time to pause and take stock. Even if you’re not a company. 😉
I wrote a post in December about blooming where you are planted for the New Year. I truly believe, wherever you are on your path at any given moment, you don’t have to be THERE yet to still bloom NOW.
I wrote in December, that while experts were discussing new year’s resolutions and what changes to make in 2018, I offered you the idea that what if it’s all about NOT changing, not replacing— but fixing, enhancing and appreciating? Want to find a better job, bigger house, better relationship? Renovate what you have to make it suit your needs.
That option is always available for you.
On the flip side, if you are a GO FOR IT kind of person, I have words for you too. If renovating doesn’t suit you, there’s always this quote, “There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they decide to believe in themselves. Period.”
Confidence, self-belief and not being afraid to really go after what you want (even if you’re faking it a little as you learn) is hard stuff. I tell my kids a lot (and myself) – what is the worst thing that’s going to happen? You’re going to get rejected, or you’re going to fail. That’s really it! That’s the elephant in the room. You aren’t going to die- and you can come back from anything.
When someone asks me my fee, I confidently declare my price (even if my knees are shaking, and even if I’m not sure I’m right). Sometimes I price myself out of the market and lose the opportunity, and sometimes I leave money on the table and undervalue myself. (Shit I hate when that happens.) But it happens. And it’s part of the learn-as-we-go experience.
Regardless of your approach, why not be an active participant in your life instead of a bystander? It sounds like a no-brainer, but it really isn’t. You have to make the active choice to leave your ego at the door, and to leave your comfort zone.
As we embark upon Q2, can you make these next 3 months a time that you take small risks and chances, even if you don’t think you’re there yet?
Whether you’re starting spring more accepting with gratitude and less active seeking (as in my first point above), or the more active approach (my second point), I hope you enter spring with an open heart and open mind.
Happy Easter, Happy Passover, Happy Everything.
It is my choice and it will always be because i don’t care about what i’m wearing and what others thinks about what i have on me .
“It sounds like a no-brainer, but it really isn’t. You have to make the active choice to leave your ego at the door, and to leave your comfort zone.”
This for whatever reason, really stuck with me and hit me hard. Very inspiring… I think that you’re right. When we say “Be more active in your life”, it feels straightforward and a piece of cake, but then when you really think about it… Every single day, how many opportunities are you actually missing out on? How many encounters could you have had if you were more aware and confident?
For example, today I went into work with a cup of coffee for myself. What would have stopped me from buying 2 or 3 cups instead and handing it out to the early birds in the office? Another example, while waiting for the building lift, there were other people. Instead of just giving a polite nod, what stopped me from striking up a quick conversation? Was it a lack of topics to talk about? Well the Long Easter Weekend was literally yesterday so already that’s one subject which could have turned into a brief but nice 3-4 minute chat to start off the day.
These are just two examples that happened within 10 minutes of one another. We need to think of how many more examples there are in our every day lives.. 17 hours of consciousness, and on most days at least 10 of those would be in the company of other people. And yet, most of us spend most of our days in our own bubble, and without even realizing it, we let hundreds, thousands of opportunities pass by… And that’s only the social opportunities. Imagine being more active in our careers, in our diets, and in the small minuscule details of life. . So to finish this up, I really do agree with your outlook on us trying to take a more active approach to our lives… even if it’s just small risks and chances. Looking forward to more of your work!