Happy #MotivationMonday, ladies!
My fourth episode of the #OWNSHOW on OWN TV aired live at 7am this morning. The topic was on the importance of finding your sisterhood.
Here is this week’s episode on OWN TV.
My girlfriends are my oxygen tanks – not a word of a lie. I’ll tell you from personal experience, if there is one group of people besides my incredible family that has nourished my soul more during stressful times, it’s been my girlfriends. While our husbands or partners can be there for us in a way that many cannot, our girlfriends fill a void that our partners cannot. They are not mutually exclusive, and you shouldn’t have to live without either one. If you’re lucky enough to find one great friend, or a few friends who are TRUE friends, you are one lucky lady.
I feel very fortunate to have never befriended those catty, mean friends. You know, the bitches? I can honestly say I’ve never allowed toxic friends into my nest. My girlfriends are people whom I could call at 2 am desperate, naked, no money, lost, sick, whatever, and they would be there in a moment’s notice. I know I would be there for them. I feel grateful for my wonderful friendships, and apparently it’s making me healthy.
Here is the research out of Stanford. As if we didn’t already know how incredible it feels to be with our girlfriends, a study out of Stanford explained just how “healthy” these female friendships are:
In an evening class at Stanford, the last lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman, whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences.
Physically, this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings, whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.
Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.
There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising,” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true.
In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!
So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky.
Let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health!
And, thanks again for watching!
1. The link to today’s episode 4 on Oprah.com: Why You Need To Find Your Sisterhood: http://www.oprah.com/own-show/Why-You-Need-To-Find-Your-Sisterhood
2. Direct link to the episode 4 on YouTube: http://youtu.be/EXcK1-0j5gQ
3. If you missed the first three episodes, here are the links:
Amen to friendships.
I’d love to know: do you make time for your girlfriends or is it a struggle to keep and maintain your female friendships? Do you make your friends a priority? Please share below!