Ready to FINALLY Prevent Burnout, Reclaim Your Energy, and Live in Balance?

Join thousands of women already mastering stress-proof routines for a thriving life - without sacrificing ambition!! Take Erica's FREE Self-Care Masterclass

Ready to FINALLY Prevent Burnout, Reclaim Your Energy, and Live in Balance?

Join thousands of women already mastering stress-proof routines for a thriving life - without sacrificing ambition! Take Erica's FREE Self-Care Masterclass

Bill Gates and Steve Jobs Raised Their Kids Tech-Free — And It Should Have Been a Red Flag

I guess we can call this one, #MediaMonday.

Happy Monday, ladies.

My girlfriend sent me this article this morning, and instead of re-writing the news in my own words, I thought Business Insider’s Allana Aktar did a fine job delivering it to us.

So, instead of writing about it myself, I opted simply to direct you to the article.

The news headline is the headline above.

It starts like this…

“Bill Gates, one of the most influential tech leaders in the world, limited how much technology his children could use at home. In 2007, Gates, the former CEO of Microsoft, implemented a cap on screen time when his daughter started developing an unhealthy attachment to a video game. He also didn’t let his kids get cell phones until they turned 14.”

How to Self-Publish Your Book

I have a question for you: What are you doing with your manuscript?

You finally finished writing your book.  Congratulations!  Possibly, you spent years writing and rewriting it.  I’m sure it represents a ton of work and an unbelievable amount of time, so you have accomplished something to really be proud of.

Now you have to address the publication issue. One possibility is self-publishing. Writing a book and publishing a book require very different skills, so you’ll have to do some internet research.  Once you start, you’ll be shocked at how much information is available on the web. What you probably won’t realize at first is that the web searches can lead to unintended problems.

There are two areas of concern here. First, some of the self-publishing information is inaccurate or flat out misleading.  Second, the web is filled with scam artists looking to prey on first-time self-publishing authors.

Every Little Thing Matters

I did a thing today.

Actually I drove away from the thing I wanted to do because I wasn’t sure about it.

I picked up my daughter as planned and when she got in the car, I told her about what I saw and what I wanted to do. She said, “If you don’t feel right about not doing something, you should go back.” So, I drove back with my Joy to the place where the woman stood holding a cardboard sign that read, “Please I have no job. I have two kids and we are hungry.”

Come on now.

We all know in our heart of hearts that no one wants to stand on a street with a sign begging for help. We’re sometimes just so wrapped up in our own worries being mindless to others around us that we don’t imagine how good and easy we have it. Or worse, and I’m guilty of this too, we shove a few coins in their hands so we can feel better about ourselves.

Meeting Your Edge

If you’re not afraid, it’s not your edge.

If you’re not resistant, it’s not your edge. If you can coast through it, it’s not your edge.

If you’re not feeling raw, it’s not your edge. If you’re trying to fit yourself into a mental framework, it’s not your edge. If you think you’ve got it figured out, it’s not your edge.

If you leap too soon, you’ll bounce back to your old ways before long; and if you wait too long to leap, you’ll remain bound to your old ways after the novelty of seeing different ground has worn thin. Going to your edge is not a one-time activity; it’s a way of being.

WomenOnTheFence Celebrates Its 10th Blogiversary!

Ten years ago today, I wrote my first blog post. It’s our WomenOnTheFence.com’s 10th BLOGIVERSARY!

How things have changed over the past decade. Growth, evolution, stumbles, triumphs, watching my babies grow. 

Thank you for sticking with me. I am grateful beyond measure.

How my first post went, September 11, 2009:

It’s Later Than You Think

Eight years ago, during the same month, I had twin boys and co-founded Cloudability. About three months ago Cloudability was acquired. About three weeks ago we lost one of our boys.

When I got the call I was sitting in a conference room with 12 people at our Portland office talking about PTO policies. Minutes earlier, I had admitted to the group that in the last 8 years I’d not taken more than a contiguous week off.

My wife and I have an agreement that when one of us calls, the other answers. So when the phone rang I stood up and walked to the conference room door immediately.

I was still walking through the door when I answered with “Hey, what’s up?”

Her reply was icy and immediate: “J.R., Wiley is dead.”

20 Years As An Entrepreneur With Some Fun #FlashbackFridays

Twenty years ago today, August 23, 1999, I became an entrepreneur. I registered my company for $37.00, called everyone I knew, knocked on strangers’ doors, and never looked back.

In honor of twenty years today, and it being #FlashbackFriday, here are some funny videos (when I had some INTERESTING HAIR, to say the least.)

Also a full circle moment that Global News / Global Montreal gave me my first media break.

Mompreneur Side-Hustle Business Ideas For Moms!

So it’s almost 2020. Maybe you’ve decided that you’re going to get off the fence and contribute to your world and your household income in a new kind of way. Maybe you need to contribute for financial reasons, maybe you have different reasons. But one thing is for certain… Mompreneurship can be big business.

I am SOO passionate about yesterday’s Global News parenting lifestyle segment!

The kids are back in school very soon. Ever dream of a side-hustle or making money working from home? Can’t think of what to do? Yesterday morning, I shared Mompreneur Side-Hustle Business Ideas for Moms.

Moms, female entrepreneurs, independence, purpose, dream chasing, making your own money. Everything I love.

Dr. Laurie Betito, Sex Therapist: On Love, Passion, Sex, Marriage and How To Make It All Work

Season 1, Episode 6 is now live!

It’s beyond exciting to be able to take WomenonTheFence.com and OFF THE FENCE LIVING and bring it to your ear, wherever you go.

Today gives new meaning to the song, Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!

If you are wondering about things like: how to keep the passion alive in your relationship, how to talk to your teens about sexuality, if marriage can survive infidelity, the best sex toys for women, and everything love and passion, this episode is for you!.

Summer Is Here NOW

Hello, beautiful ladies!

I’ve been back in action this week.

The summer has been a lovely mix of work and play. I usually take two consecutive weeks off, but this year I split my weeks up.

Early July, I went to California with Hilly, and two exhausted and overwhelmed parents began to relax. We just enjoyed the outdoors– hiking, biking, yoga, and just being together. It was just what the doctor ordered for us.

It’s time to work smarter not harder, end procrastination and own your day… every day!

Join my FREE time management and productivity workshop!


Clockwise final