Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead

Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead
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By Dorothy Gibbons

I don’t need studies to know that writing down goals works.  I’ve seen the proof over and over.  Still there is some impressive research surrounding goals and why writing them down makes a difference.

Back in 1979, Harvard researchers supposedly interviewed their graduates and found that 84% had no goals, 13% had goals but hadn’t written them down and 3% had not only written down their goals but had a plan to support them. Ten years later, they interviewed the same people and discovered that those 3% who had written down their goals were earning 10 times as much as all their other classmates.

Years later, wanting to verify that the Harvard study ever existed or had validity, Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University in California, set out on a study of her own. She gathered 267 people — men and women from all over the world, and from all walks of life, including entrepreneurs, educators, healthcare professionals, artists, lawyers and bankers. The youngest was 23 and the oldest 72.

She divided the participants into groups, according to who wrote down their goals and dreams, and who didn’t.  She discovered that those who wrote down their goals and dreams on a regular basis achieved those desires at a significantly higher level than those who did not. In fact, she found that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.

Referring to Mathews’ work, world-class inspirational speaker, executive coach, and corporate consultant, Mary Morrissey explained the ‘whys’ behind the success of writing down goals.  Seems the process of 1) dreaming up the goal or desired intent and 2) using the hand/eye coordination to capture them on paper or computer means that both sides of our brains are engaged—right side for dreaming, left side for writing.

I realize for some folks the very word- goal- generates all kinds of stress and anxiety.  Maybe using the word ‘possibilities’ is a better choice.  Not as tangible but certainly “mind opening.”

Whatever the studies show and whichever word is used, I love goals. I get excited about the process of creating them and totally enjoy my annual ritual of writing them down.

For me New Years and the first weeks of January are all about goals, not resolutions, but goals.  I love to think about all the possibilities that the coming year could hold.  I’ve written down my goals since I was in my mid-twenties and believe me, it works.

Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead
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Each year my goal is to have 104 goals.  I know that sounds excessive but bear with me.

Not all goals are life altering.  True, some of my goals are huge and may take more than twelve months to accomplish.

Many of my goals are stretch goals and will mean my personal commitment of time, energy and money. Others goals I call ‘maintenance’ goals—having my hair and nails done monthly, or a massage at least quarterly.  Some are geared toward self-growth and education—going to two seminars annually or reading 3 books a month. Some are about lifestyle-walking 2 miles 5 days a week or drinking 60 ounces of water each day. The most fun ones to conjure up involve pleasure, determining how many great movies I’ll see or how often I’ll take mini-vacations with my spouse.

Creating goals really isn’t that complex; it requires an afternoon of dreaming about the possibilities and writing them down.

Since 1989, I’ve encouraged my employees to write down their goals, save a copy if they want and put their list in a sealed envelope. Then they give their envelope to me for safe keeping until January of the following year.  I love seeing the looks on their faces when they open their envelopes. I sure don’t expect anyone to be as obsessive as me and create 104 goals, but most come up with 5 to 10 and they are always surprised and usually pleased at the results.

So while it isn’t all that hard to create goals, there are some ‘guidelines’ that I’ve learned over the years; tips to follow that ensure your success and make the process fun.

Be sure to write your goals in the present tense

The words ‘I will’ aren’t as powerful as ‘I have’ or ‘I enjoy’ or ‘I create.’  Other words to avoid are ‘want’ and ‘need.’  Using those words almost guarantees that you’ll keep wanting or needing whatever it is you listed.

The word I’ve come to love the most when working on goals is ‘explore.’  Many times we don’t know ‘exactly’ what it is we hope to see happen or maybe we don’t have a good picture in our minds or we’re not even sure it’s really a desire so the goal might read: ‘I explore a new car.’

Watch the words you use

Be careful of using terms like ‘lose’ because the Universal Laws have a way of interceding and insisting we must find whatever we have ‘lost.’

Losing weight is usually top of folk’s lists but a better way is to say: “My clothes fit perfectly’ or ‘I am at my perfect weight” or “I add plenty of fresh veggies to my meals.”

Attract is another powerful word

I’m only ok with goals for romantic relationships that start with “I find” a husband/wife or the man/woman of my dreams.  I know from experience that saying “I am in the presence of my Beloved” will evoke mighty results.

Don’t stop the flow with don’t

Above all, never include words like don’t as in I ‘don’t’ want to be strapped for money or I ‘don’t’ want to be alone.  For reasons I have no way of understanding, the mind simply eliminates the word ‘don’t’ and whatever you most fear is set in motion.

A few hours can mean the change of a lifetime

Yes, it takes a little practice (and time) but try it! Create 5, 10 or 100 goals for 2019.  Write them down! Make them fun, exciting, adventurous. Allow them to stretch you a bit.  No matter if you look at them daily or put them away until January 2019, you’ll be amazed at the outcome.

Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead
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Send them to me if you like.  It would be my honor to be the keeper of your goals and dreams and celebrate them coming true with you around this time next year.

 Enjoy.

About

Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead

Dorothy Gibbons is the Co-Founder & CEO of The Rose in Houston, TX.  She is also an author, motivator, fundraiser, speaker and force of nature!

If you have any thoughts or comments about rolling into 2019, please leave them below. I’d love to know where your mindset is at.

Happy Motivation Monday,

Why I Quit Making New Year’s Resolutions to Explore Possibilities Instead

2 Comments
  1. Thank you for sharing your journey with your Goals.
    I will incorporate this into my Life ,as well.
    Positive mindset creates positive results. I Believe this to be true.
    Keep Journalling and teaching.
    —— Carol Wooten
    A 20 Year Survivor of Breast Cancer ,on October 29,2019 Thanks to You ,Dr Dixie and The Rose. ??????

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