The weeks following my knee reconstruction surgery were littered with sleepless nights. I was practically immobile; a leg brace appropriate for a 6-foot man restricted my every move. My mom set me up in the main-floor bedroom of our summer lake house. Though the mattress and bedding were plush, sleep wasn’t an easy feat. I was frustrated, emotionally and physically. I wanted to be wake boarding and training for collegiate soccer preseason and playing beach volleyball and running from the cops at parties with my friends–not swimming laps in a geriatric jog belt while my leg flopped around.
People always say that you never really know what goes on behind closed doors, which always makes you wonder– what goes on behind closed doors in the average marriage? It makes you question whether things in your own relationship are “normal.” I think one of the biggest questions is, “how often do most married couples have sex?”
At first I questioned whether or not I should just dive right into this topic, but then I thought a few things: (1) a healthy marriage is so fundamental to the happiness of the rest of my life (and the whole family), (2) most of us find that time with our spouse slips on the priority list and often takes a backseat to more practical, everyday life tasks, and (3) my husband wanted to write an entire book entitled “Monday, Wednesday & Saturday” (or it could be “Tuesday, Thursday & Saturday – depending upon that season’s TV line-up) because he thinks our scheduled “date nights” are so great.
By Guest Blogger Kathryn Weber
When it comes to slipping between the sheets, the last thing you’re probably thinking about is feng shui in your bedroom. Yet it’s the feng shui of your bedroom that could just make the difference between a so-so romantic experience and an overarching deity of oohs and aaahs.
Bedroom parity can solve the bedroom rarity of solid and satisfying sex for both partners. Yes it can. How can that be? Well, think about your bedroom as a symbol of your relationship. Is it broken down in the middle like the mattress and filled with laptops and tablets, similar to the way your work intrudes in on your love life?
Happy almost Valentine’s Day!
I like how relationship expert Colleen Long uses the “chocolate/broccoli” analogy. Our long term, loving, secure relationships are the “broccoli.” They are the things that, if we stay committed to, consistently over time grow us up. They make us healthier, more evolved, more balanced, well-rounded individuals. However, chocolate comes along in life (just like opportunities for affairs) and tempts us with ideas like “How wonderful would life be if I could just eat chocolate all the time?” or “This must be the thing I was meant to eat all my life.”
But we all know that no good can come of a long term diet consisting of only chocolate.
Being superwoman isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be, is it? Between work, taking care of the house, the children and white knuckling the last threads of your social life, doing it all means you probably have a lack luster sex life. By the end of the day, any sex, let alone adventurous sex, isn’t even a remote possibility.
“Oh My God, I hate my thighs! Is that a hair growing out of my chin? No, it’s three hairs growing out of my chin, and it’s friggin gray!!! Was that wrinkle on my forehead there yesterday? My tummy is sooo FAT! God, I feel like I’m going crazy! Maybe I should get a face-lift… I might still feel nuts, but at least I’d be beautiful – I’d be enough. Maybe if I lose weight, get liposuction and laser treatments for the hairs growing out of my chin, someone will want me – because then I’ll be perfect.”
When did women forget how powerful, lovely, smart, intelligent, resourceful and amazing they are?
When did a wrinkle on the road map of our beautiful faces begin to dictate our worthiness?
Happy Valentine’s Day, lovebirds! I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and so far neither of us has cheated. We have something really great, but if you read my blog, you’d know it wasn’t always so good. We had our troubles and issues in our marriage, same as all couples. I will tell you that it is what we chose to do about our issues, that has kept our love thriving and our marriage hot. Prepare to change your thinking!
I’ve always been on the unofficial search for better sex tips. In my early 20’s, my social circle consisted of really good looking beefy men who had lusty arms so sculpted, they could protect a lady from any danger. Hormones were raging all around, and booty calls between friends happened all the time… in a no-strings-attached college kind of way.
When it comes to slipping between the sheets, the last thing you’re probably thinking about is the feng shui of your bedroom. Yet, it’s the feng shui of your bedroom that could just make the difference between a so-so experience filled with ho-hum ooh’s and aahh’s and a rousing chorus of praise to an over-arching deity.
I was one of the last of my friends to have sex. Yup, I admit it, practically a whole year behind the rest of my group. Now, that’s not to say that I wasn’t sexual, I just wasn’t having any sex. Like my other friends, I had a boyfriend, I went to grad – in short, I had opportunity. But I didn’t have sex.