Men don’t like to talk about themselves much. For this reason, many of their idiosyncrasies are largely left a mystery. Today, I am pulling back the curtain, revealing the delicate balance of what separates a man from the boy. Whether you are married, in a relationship, navigating dating websites or the bar scene, these four tips will help bring new understanding to what you already thought you knew about men.
By Guest Blogger Amy Larson It feels like just yesterday I was wearing big hair,…
Tomorrow my husband and I will celebrate 11 years married. Sixteen years together, 11 years as husband and wife. I’m 36 years old, so that makes me 19 1/2 when I first passionately kissed my man on a park bench, one hot summer night (watching two lesbians make out).
So for my new readers, who were not readers last year on our 10th wedding anniversary, here is our story…
I can count on 5 hands, NOT fingers, how many friends I have. Yes, I thankfully have a lot of nice friends, and they run in many different circles. So much so, that when it’s my birthday, we’re either a gazillion people, or I opt to do absolutely nothing, since I never know where or whom to cut.
In wake of the recent Arnold and Maria saga, now would be a good time to talk about marriage and divorce. I was speaking to my mother last week, who explained that back in the day, she was actually the first of her peer group to get divorced. As was not considered the norm then, theirs was a nasty divorce. Five years of fighting, senseless amounts of money given to lawyers, and an ever lasting blemish in the memories of my childhood as well as my siblings. As for my grandparents, it was sacrilegious to get divorced and they very much frowned upon it.
Wow, how the years have flown. Wow, how young we looked. Two beautiful boys, and…
About four years ago, our toddler ran away from us at the grocery store. I chased her into the pasta aisle where she was holding a big jar of red sauce. My heart rate sped up as I realized I was about to become that parent, the mother who watches her child smash a jar onto the floor of aisle 6 and then walks away as if nothing happened.
In that moment, I understood why parents do things like that. It all became clear. They are just too exhausted, unappreciated, overwhelmed and resentful to have to deal with one more mess.
Are you married? Are you divorced? Chances are, if you are no longer married, you didn’t go into that union expecting to end up divorced. Unfortunately, marriage statistics today are not that sunny– we’ve all heard, practically one in two marriages end in divorce. So, if you want to withstand the divorce epidemic, you must self-vaccinate by learning the right upgraded conflict skills. The skills that I am going to give you may make the difference in determining if your marriage will last.
Ok Girlfriends. We’re gettin’ down, dirty and honest today. We’re taking an old topic and breathing new life into it, cuz the double standard still exists in full force in many households today. I know it’s alive and well in mine.
Warning: Today could turn into a bit of a kvetch-a-thon. I’m not sure yet.
So now, let’s look at the definition of “The Double Standard.”
double standard
–noun 1. any code or set of principles containing different provisions for one group of people than for another, esp. an unwritten code of sexual behavior permitting men more freedom than women
It takes a village to raise a child, no doubt. But sometimes the village can be, well, a little overbearing… shall we say. We are both amazingly fortunate (read: most of the time) to have family geographically close by. They have been lifesavers in many ways, including babysitting, picking up a child, a home cooked meal, unlimited mommy advice (read: sometimes unsolicited) and providing endless company. However, with our fortunes, come our misfortunes. You know the overbearing, always present, ‘think they know what’s best for your child’ grandparent? The child that YOU spent hours of sweat, blood, and tears delivering?
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