SEXUALITY

So, today I decided to step away from the computer, and to your local YouTube channel. It was time. Today, I’m in a bun, glasses, no makeup, and sipping coffee on my deck… a.k.a my summer office.

I asked you on Twitter what you wanted to chat about in today’s vlog, and it seems many of you want to discuss Fifty Shades of Grey, and who Universal should cast as the leading man, Christian Grey. This week, it has been speculated that the top two contenders for the role are Ryan Gosling (The Notebook) and Ian Somerhalder (Vampire Diaries).

Alright, if you haven’t yet heard about the book Fifty Shades of Grey, you just might be in the minority. Fifty Shades of Grey is a new novel to not yet hit bookstores. Yes, you can only buy this erotic novel, frequently described at “mommy porn,” if you own an iPad, Kindle, Kobo, Nook, e-reader. It is supposed to be coming out in hard copy in April.

When I first met the man who is now my husband and he told me that his work was counseling men with sexual addiction, I remember clearly the feeling of wanting to stick my fingers in my ears while loudly shouting “la-la-la-la.” That was quickly followed by the immediate conclusion that this man was not someone I would want to talk with ever again. But life as a jokester led me to want to get to know this man, even with a career that was initially oh-so-embarrassing to hear about. And it didn’t end there. I soon learned that not only did he counsel sex addicts; he was a recovering sex addict himself.

I really wanted to blog about the current events surrounding Congressman Anthony Weiner. Yes, THAT Weiner who showed HIS Wiener on Twitter and then lied about it. But then I reconnected with one of our amazing previous Guest Bloggers, Kiri Blakely, who has been covering all things Weinergate. And I think she did a better job than me.

People always say that you never really know what goes on behind closed doors, which always makes you wonder– what goes on behind closed doors in the average marriage? It makes you question whether things in your own relationship are “normal.” I think one of the biggest questions is, “how often do most married couples have sex?”

In an era where professional thank-you’s are sent as text messages, romantic break-ups are done over e-mail, and the sloppy word “Whatever” is tossed around carelessly, the zeitgeist of a self-absorbed society too busy being “fabulous” to be anything but dismissive, we need to stop and return to the timeless qualities which really make a person fabulous.